02/24/2009:

THE FOUR YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF YOUR DEATH IS TODAY AND I STILL MISS YOU SO MUCH MEL. IT'S NOT TRUE, IT DOESN'T GET EASIER WITH TIME, AND LEAST NOT FOR ME. I WENT TO THE CEMETARY TODAY TO VISIT YOU. I WISH YOU WERE HERE TO KNOW AND LOVE MELANIE HEAVEN, YOUR NIECE. SHE REMINDS US OF YOU AND SHE LOOKS SO MUCH LIKE YOU AND HER MOMMY. YOUR SISTER AND I HAVE VOWED THAT SHE WILL KNOW HER AUNTIE NOT JUST THROUGH PICTURES BUT THROUGH VIDEOS TOO. YOU WOULD BE THE BEST AUNTIE EVER! I KNOW YOU ARE IN HEAVEN WATCHING OVER US AND KEEPING US SAFE. I LOVE YOU MELANIE NOW AND FOREVER.

LOVE, 

YOUR MOMMY

FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE NOT DONE SO YET, PLEASE PLEASE SIGN UP FOR THE ANNUAL MADD WALK TITLED: "WALK LIKE MADD"; SET FOR SATURDAY, AUGUST 2, 2008 AT SLOANS LAKE PARK. WE ARE STILL "TEAM ARCHIE". PLEASE IF YOU CANNOT WALK THAT MORNING CAN YOU PLEASE PLEDGE ANY AMOUNT YOU CAN IN MEMORY OF MELANIE AMANDA ARCHULETA. TOGETHER WE WANT TO RAISE OVER $3,000.00! BELOW IS THE LINK TO THE COLORADO CHAPTER FOR MADD:

http://www.madd.org/chapter/0800_10366
May 2, 2008:

Well Melanie, as another Mother's Day approaches, and you are not here to celebrate it with me, my love and thoughts of you are still as strong as ever. After three years the pain is still so consuming and I miss you terribly. My love for you has never faltered and in fact it grows stronger everyday, and I am proud to have been your mommy. Thank you for sending us Melanie Heaven. I wish you were here to watch her kick the soccer ball around! Sometimes she looks so much like you and acts just like you, it takes our breath away, in those moments it is both bittersweet and sad, but in those moments I thank god he sent you to me, if even for a brief moment of time. My anger at god is receding, although not all the way gone, it is receding. I'm sorry I haven't gone to the cemetary to see you lately but I will be there on Mother's Day thanking god for giving me the privilege to have be known as Mel's mom. I went to Starbucks the other morning and the gal that served me my drink told me she was at the accident scene the night you passed, so see Mel, everyone I meet comes into my life for some reason or another. She told me she prays for me and thinks about you. I MISS YOU BABY.  Only you know the tears and sadness I experience on a daily basis. Thanks for helping me stay strong.

_________________________________

I received this email today from one of Melanie's teammates and roommate in college, this is what keeps me going, knowing Melanie was so loved and is missed by so many:

Mrs. Archuleta, 
This is Danielle Lewis writing to you. Mel and I played together at Stony Brook and she was my first college roommate. It is almost like I detached myself as if I could just make the nightmare go away, and I would wake up and Melanie would be still here with us. Everyone once in awhile I get the flashbacks of her, and with the recent passing of my grandmother who battled cancer it is like reliving the pain. I came across all the web sites you had of her, and it just brought so much comfort to know Melanie is still here and part of us everyday in our hearts. I am now coaching college soccer at South Carolina State University, and I always tend to reflect on all the happy moments I had at Stony Brook as a player, and of course Melanie was a big part of that. I just wanted to thank-you for having such a beautiful daughter that has touched my life so much, for the short and precious time that I was able to have Melanie in my life. Everyday I step on that soccer field to coach these young players, I even see players on recruiting trips that remind me of the great player she was. I did a persuasive speech for one of my undergrad classes on drinking and driving and talked about Melanie, when I become head coach of my own women's soccer program I will be sure to get the message across. I would love to make a trip up to see you guys and with it being spring season, it reminds me of the day when I got the news, but I find comfort knowing that this was a person so loved...and she truly was an angel and as in my grandmother's case she is not leaving home but going home to heaven and though it was way too early than we all wanted, we will see her again. Best Wishes 

Danielle



MELANIE PLEASE HELP ME GET THROUGH TOMORROW, I FEEL AS IF I AM FALLING APART ALL OVER AGAIN. I CAN'T BEAR ANOTHER HOLIDAY WITHOUT YOU.

GIVE THANKS TO GOD THAT YOUR FAMILY IS WITH YOU THIS THANKSGIVING, SAY A PRAYER FOR THE ONES THAT ARE NOT WITH US, FAMILY IS TRULY SPECIAL, HUG YOUR LOVED ONES, TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM EVERYDAY.

I MISS YOU MELANIE. I'M SURE YOU KNOW JUST HOW MUCH I MISS YOU. EVERYDAY I TELL YOU HOW MUCH I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU. KEEP YOUR FAMILY SAFE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON.









                  








Today you would be 23 Melanie, Happy Birthday my firstborn, I miss you, WE ALL MISS YOU! Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I will try sooo hard to get through today, but my heart hurts and I keep crying wondering, I keep thinking about who you'd be today, would you be a mother, would you be married, would you still be living in Denver, all these thoughts are in my mind today. 

LORD GIVE ME STRENTH TO GET THROUGH TODAY.

Melanie Archuleta
Dearest Melanie: It's hard to believe that it has been 2 years since you left your loved ones so abruptly. Your sister Alicia misses you so much. The pain of losing you is too much for her to carry in her heart. Our pain is overwhelming. Your daddy struggles every day and isn't getting better. Life is not the same for any of us. Your cousins always will remember how you always had a smile on your face, and, of course, that obnoxious laugh, we will never forget it. You always managed to laugh and smile even when times were tough. You had that special gift, I guess. Please come and visit me in my dreams. Your aunties and uncles think of you every day, and your grandmas and grandpa don't understand why. Someday we will all see you again, and the rejoicing will begin. Drunk driving is an epidemic that must be stopped. Love you, Mel. Mommy
Published in the Denver Newspaper Agency on 2/24/2007.
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My dearest Melanie:





Posted February 1, 2007:

As Melanie's 2-year anniversary of her death approaches (Feb. 24th), Mel's family and friends will be getting together on Saturday, February 24, 2007 at 12:30 at Melanie's gravesite, Crown Hill Cemetary, 29th and Wadsworth, to reflect and share memories of a wonderful young lady, and the impact she made on our lives in the short time we knew her and loved her. 

Please feel free to join us and we hope to see you there! If you do plan on attending please bring PURPLE flowers with you, as this was Melanie's favorite color! We hope to see you there!

Love,

Rebecca Archuleta
Melanie's proud mommy
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November 27, 2006:

As I promised all the fellow angel families at the Angel Gathering, and for all of Melanie's family and friends, presenting my first Glamdaughter, Ms. Melanie Heaven, born 11/16/06 at 2:05 a.m. Named after her amazing auntie Melanie! Melanie, everytime I look in her eyes I see you and it saddens me so very much that you are not here to meet her in person, you would have made an amazing Aunt:








That we were given the opportunity to know someone as special and loving as Melanie Amanda Archuleta.


Wow Melanie, another Thanksgiving without you. I can honestly say, I despise drunk drivers with a passion. Why GOD? Why my Melanie? She would never ever hurt a soul.

AS THE HOLIDAYS APPROACH, PLEASE I BEG YOU, DRINK RESPONSIBLY, DON'T EVER EVER DRINK AND DRIVE, THE CONSEQUENCES OF DRINKING AND DRIVING ARE WAY BEYOND WHAT I CAN PUT DOWN IN WORDS AND THE PAIN OF LOSING SOMEONE AS WONDERFUL AS MY FIRST BORN MELANIE TO THIS EPIDEMIC NEVER GOES AWAY. 



MELANIE! 
______________________

I'M THINKING OF YOU AND 

HOW MUCH YOU USED TO 

LOVE TO GIVE CANDY TO THE KIDS 

THAT CAME TO OUR DOOR! I MISS 

YOU SO MUCH AND THE PAIN 

JUST DOESN'T GO AWAY BABE.

Melanie was happiest when she was

playing soccer.  She truly loved this 

sport! I miss watching her play. 

She was truly gifted.

Finally, pics of the angel family gathering I attended on behalf of Melanie Amanda Archuleta. The pics below are of fellow angel parents, we have all become good friends under awful circumstances, the death of a loved one, they understand the pain I live with everyday of my life. Our meeting was truly blessed and all our angels now know each other through our friendship. I love you all! I had a great time. Until next year!



























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Monday, September 18, 2006:

WOW! What an amazing family we have become! The first angel family gathering was very healing, sad, bittersweet, fun at times, and just all around perfect and everything I expected it to be. I love all my fellow angel families and had an amazing time. For the first time in a very long time I was able to cry, laugh, let loose, and just miss Melanie and not feel guilty over not being "over it" over the death of my baby girl. I look forward to meeting again next year and watching our progress over the years as bereaved parents. Til we meet again angel families! Judie and Diane, thanks for all the hard work in planning and coordinating all the events this past weekend. The candle lighting was soo sad but beautiful at the same time. The slide show was very emotional and there wasn't a dry eye in the house. 

With Love,

Becky Archuleta
Proud Mother of Melanie Amanda Archuleta


Friday, September 15, 2006, I will be in Virginia Beach, Virginia meeting the "Angel Families" for the first time. I will return on Monday, September 18, 2006. Melanie, I take this journey on your behalf and to represent you in the best way I know how, as your proud mommy. I hope I make you proud this weekend. I love you and miss you soo much. The pain isn't getting any easier. When I get up to speak on your behalf I can only pray and hope that I don't fall apart and that your presence will be truly felt.


                                                                                                             

Hi Daddy, its me,

Your baby girl in the sky.

Won't you tell me Daddy, Why does my mommy cry?

Doesn't she know I'm happy here,

Heaven's a beautiful place Oh, how it hurts me, Daddy

To see tears streaming down Mommy's face.

Daddy, tell her I'm much better here,

Jesus fixed my heart. But when I see mommy crying,
 It just about tears it apart.

I know it hurt you both, Daddy, When Jesus took me away.

But you and mommy remember, We'll be together again someday.

I can't wait to hug you, I never got the chance before. 
When its time for you to come, I'll be waiting at heaven's door.

Then you'll both understand, Jesus knew where I needed to be.

What a marvelous place to live, Just wait and you both shall see.

Please let my Mommy know, Daddy,

That I heard every word she said. And I remember her softly 
kissing me As I lay cuddled in her arms.

Just one more thing Daddy, Before I have to go, 
I love you both very much And just wanted you to know.

Unknown 

                                                                                                   

I said, "God, I hurt."
And God said, "I know."
I said, "I cry alot."
And God said, "That's why I gave you tears."
I said, "Life is so hard."
And God said, "That's why I gave you loved ones."
I said, "But my loved one died."
And God said, "So did mine."
I said, "It's such a great unbearable loss."
And God said, "I saw mine nailed to the cross."
I said, "But your Son lives."
And God said, "So does your daughter."
I said, "Where are they now?"
And God said, "My Son is by my side and 
your Angel is in my arms....."
                                                                                            

Angel Moms

We have shared our tears and our sorrow,
We have given encouragement to each other,
Given hope for a brighter tomorrow,
We share the title of grieving mother.

Some of us lost older daughters or sons,
Who we watched grow over the years,
Some have lost their babies before their lives begun,
But no matter the age , we cry the same tears.

We understand each others pain,
The bond we share is very strong,
With each other there is no need to explain,
The path we walk is hard and long.

Our children brought us together,
They didn't want us on this journey alone,
They knew we needed each other,
To survive the pain of them being gone.

So take my hand my friend,
We may stumble and fall along the way,
But we'll get up and try again,
Because together we can make it day by day.

We can give each other hope,
We'll create a place where we belong,
Together we will find ways to cope,
Because we are Angel Moms and together we are strong!

Judi Walker
(Shane's Mom)
Copyright Dec. 28, 1999
Dedicated to all moms who have lost a child.

                                                                                                  

Do You Remember Me?

I can't believe after all this time,I can't get over you,
I guess a love like ours is one of a kind,a love that is true.
It's been 1 1/2 years since you left me to go to God & 
heavens immensity, 

Do you still remember me?

It's like a bad dream that plays over & over in my head,
Of things I wish I'd done or words I would of said.
There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of you,
Even after all this time,what am I going to do?

Maybe this is the way mommys are suppose to feel,
Perhaps our wounds are never intended to heal.
If I could ask but one question why,
How is it God could need you more than I? 

                                                                                  

IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY
AND MEMORIES WERE A LANE
I WOULD WALK RIGHT UP TO HEAVEN
TO BRING YOU HOME AGAIN
NO FAREWELL WORDS WERE SPOKEN
NO TIME TO SAY GOODBYE
YOU WERE GONE BEFORE I KNEW IT
AND ONLY GOD KNOWS WHY
MY HEART STILL ACHES WITH SADNESS
AND SECRET TEARS STILL FLOW
WHAT IT MEANT TO LOSE YOU
NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW" 

Anonymous 

                                                                                  

Please Don't Ask ~~~~~~~

Please don't ask us if were over it yet
We will never be over it, a part of us died with her!!

Please don't tell us she's in a better place
Melanie's not here with us, in our home!!

Please don't ask if we feel better
Bereavement isn't a conditon that clears up!!

Please don't tell us you know how we feel,
Unless you've lost your child, you don't have a clue!!

Please don't tell us at least we had her for 20 years, were grateful 
we did 

At what age would you choose to lose your child??

Please don't tell us, at least we have other children - Thank God we do 

Which one of your children would you not miss and grieve for??

Please do say:

Your sorry

Say you remember her, share your memories with us

Let us talk about our beautiful Melanie

Mention her name, often

Remember her Birthday, Holiday's and Angel Date

And ~~~~~~~

Please let us cry!!!!

Thank you, 

Melanie's Proud mother Becky Lee Archuleta
                                                                                        

Hey guys:

The weekend has approached for the DUI checkpoint dedicated to Melanie. This is only the 2nd of its kind in Denver and CDOT is paying for it. I need to know ASAP if you can volunteer to help me. I am recruiting friends, family, etc. to help. If you can't help I will understand. It's only one night, Saturday, Sept. 2, 2006 from 8-3 a.m. The checkpoint is being held in Adams County. DUI checkpoints are hard emotionally, and the drunks can get to you (emotionally). I need 4-5 people to help. As many family members and friends that we have, this should not be a problem. Thanks in advance for your help.

Becky Archuleta 
sokermom@hotmail.com

"Every day you open your eyes for the first time, and the pain starts all over again. I don't ever expect to not feel that." 

"I live for the day when I will run to her, and she will run into my arms."

"I'll tell you, when you're down, and things are going bad, God will just throw an angel into your life."

By
Patsy Ramsey

Archuleta Family Update:
August 18, 2006:

For those of you who don't know yet, yes, Alicia ("Little Archie") is pregrant with her first child. Although, I was initially (and still am) very upset and angry with this, I have learned that our children do what they want and we as parents, sometimes, as painful as it is, have to sit back and let them go and grow up and make mistakes on their own. Of course, George and I will be here for Little Arch for whatever she needs, we are just not as happy as everyone else is about her decision. I think she just got so burned out on soccer and she missed her sister so much that this is the path she has chosen to fill the void in her life. She is having a baby girl. She plans on naming her baby, what else, "Melanie Heaven". Her due date is Thanksgiving, 2006. Although this isn't the path George and I would have chosen for Alicia, it is her decision and George and I have to abide by it, as painful as it is. I will always love Alicia as much as I love Melanie and a parents' love is unconditional. I have learned to bite my tongue and not say a word (which is so unlike me!). Mel's death has taught me to be humble and gracious through all of life's surprises and letdowns. 

Who knows, maybe this new addition to our family is a blessing in disguise? The good lord took away one life but has brought a new life into our family.

Melanie,

Please help me stay strong baby, send me your love and guidance to help me from going crazy.

Rebecca Lee Archuleta
Proud mother of Melanie Amanda Archuleta


August 7, 2006:

Just want to send a quick thank you to everyone that showed up for the first ever MADD 5K walk in honor of Melanie and for your generous donations! Team Archie raised over $1,000 for MADD. Melanie would be proud, and I truly felt her presence at the walk!

Love,

Becky Archuleta
Proud Mother of Melanie Amanda Archulta


REMEMBER, TOMORROW MORNING, SATURDAY, AUGUST 5, 2006, IS THE MADD 5K WALK STARTING AT 8:30 A.M. AT SLOANS LAKE PARK ON 17TH AND SHERIDAN. EVERYONE THAT KNEW MELANIE OR EVEN WHO DIDN'T KNOW HER, PLEASE COME OUT AND SUPPORT MADD IN HER MEMORY. SEE YOU THERE! LET'S ALL WEAR OUR MELANIE T-SHIRTS AND BUTTONS PROUDLY!

GO "TEAM ARCHIE"!

REBECCA ARCHULETA
PROUD MOTHER OF MELANIE ARCHULETA










Taken from a recent posting at legacy.com 
from Melanie's true love Zachary Norwood:

Hi Melly,
It's so hard to believe it has already been a year plus. I attended a mass for you on the one year anniversary. Man I miss you, your name is permanently stuck in my mouth. I'll never forget you babe, the times I spent with you were amazing. Hopefully I get to go to Denver this summer and visit the fam, I really want to see that lil sister of yours (what an angel). She reminds me of you babe. I miss you Melanie Amanda, but don't worry I'll see you in the future.

Zachary Norwood (Federal Way, WA )
norwood_zach@hotmail.com






Melanie's little sis Alicia getting ready for prom! A sister's love never dies.




Please, please, please, visit the MADD Strides for Change website address below and begin preparing and donating for the 5K walk on Saturday, August 5, 2006 at Sloans Lake in Denver, Colorado, when you get to the website, under city: look for Denver, under Join an Existing Team: "Team Archie"; let's all do this in loving memory of Melanie, if you have any questions about this walk, just send me an email through this site under: contact Rebecca Archuleta. Let's get as many people out there at the 5K walk in memory of Melanie Amanda Archuleta! Donate whatever you can in Melanie's name. Thank you soooo very much for your support.

Love,
Becky Archuleta
Proud Mother of Melanie Amanda Archuleta
http://support.madd.org/site/TR/440242139?pg=team&fr_id=1270&team_id=11600


Milehigh News article:
Sad Reminder
Anniversary of drunken driving death marked with vigil, warning to parents

March 01, 2006
A year after her daughter's death in a drunken driving accident, Becky Archuleta is still struggling for understanding.

"I don't know why she got into that car," Becky Archuleta said. "It was a situation that everyone lost."

Melanie Archuleta died Feb. 24, 2005, riding in a car that crashed on Union Boulevard. The driver, Jonathan Threlkeld, was reportedly drunk and driving up to 78 mph in a 30 mph zone. Archuleta was thrown from the car when it spun out of control. She died on the scene.

On Friday, Feb. 24, Melanie's mother, Becky, hosted a candlelight vigil at the scene of her daughter's death. The event brought family members a chance to remember Melanie, but also address the dangers of drunk driving




Alicia Archuleta, 18, holds a portrait of her sister, Melanie, who was killed in a car accident one year earlier. The Archuleta family gathered Friday at the site of the accident near Union Boulevard and Ohio Place.

"For the parents here, know what your kids are doing when they leave the house," Becky Archuleta said. "Know who they're getting into a car with and tell them when it isn't right."

Gaylen Matven of Mothers Against Drunk Driving worked with the family since the accident. Following a dip in the 1980s and 1990s, drunken driving fatalities seem to be rising, she said.

"Whether they're hit by a drunk driver or riding with a drunk driver, situations like this are all too common," Matven said. "It's a 100-percent preventable crime, and we've started to see the numbers go back up. That's a worry."

In December, Threlkeld was sentenced to 20 years in prison for the killing. Although Melanie Archuleta's grandfather emphasized the virtue of forgiveness, Becky Archuleta said she is not ready to forgive Threlkeld.

"It's only been a year, and I don't know if I'm at that stage yet," she said. "I think about Jonathan a lot. Deep down I feel sorry for him. I don't think he set out to kill Melanie that night, but he did." 


 Melanie!!!! I hope Heaven is all you thought it would be!



For Those I Love...For Those Who Love Me


                When I am Gone, Release Me...
     Let me go to find out all that I can be. You musn't tie yourself to me with tears, be happy we had our precious years. I gave you love. You can only guess how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love you each have shown, but now it's time I traveled on my own. So grieve awhile for me, as grieve you must. 

      Then let your grief be comforted by trust. It's only for awhile that we must part; so bless the memories that lie within your heart. If you need me, call and I'll be there. Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near. And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear all my love around you soft and clear. And then, when you must come this way on your own.....
I'll greet you with a smile and say "WELCOME HOME"  

A Child that loses a parent is an orphan.
A man that loses his wife is a widower.
A woman that loses her husband is a widow.
There is no name for a parent that loses a child.
There is no word to describe the pain


Melanie as a little girl with her "Daddy"




More good news about Lil Arch and her soccer endeavors:
Green Mountain Captain Signs with MLC: 



Alicia Archuleta signs her letter of intent to play for MLC while parents George and Becky look on with Coach Dan Sullivan.

Green Mountain High School's Alicia Archuleta signed a letter of intent to play for the Midland Lutheran College Soccer Team on March 23rd.  The midfielder is a team captain for her high school this season and has been a four year starter for the Rams.  She was also selected as the 2003 Gatorade Rookie of the Year for the State of Colorado. 



Alicia, George, and Becky Archuleta

As a member of the Colorado Rush, Archuleta helped lead the team to three State Cups and was State Cup MVP in 2001.  She has also been selected to the Colorado State ODP and was a member of the Regional Pool.  Coach Sullivan:  "Archie is an outstanding player and an outstanding young lady.  She is an excellent student and has also served in the Student Senate and other leadership roles at Green Mountain.  We are very proud that she chose Midland and are sure she will make a big impact both on and off the field at our school."

Rest in peace Melanie.  Sometimes when I am driving so many of your songs come on and I know it's your way of letting me know you're okay.  We think and speak your name everyday.

The following pics are Melanie's favorite things! Melanie was 20 going on 15!!!!

Zachary Norwood's nickname for Melanie was Dora because of her brown pretty skin, big brown eyes, and of the course the obvious, she was Mexican!



This was Melanie's all time favorite movie:



Her all time second favorite movie was:



She watched it a hundred times when it came out on video, to this day I still cannot bring myself to watch it, just too painful still.

Her favorite group was:




Lil Archie continues to play soccer & make her sister Melanie "Archie" proud:

Articles From Mile High News:

Missed Opportunity
OT loss sinks league title hopes for Green Mountain.

April 26, 2006
Green Mountain freshman goalie Meagan Burke and her friend, the goal post, stoned everyone except for Columbine senior Mariah Johnston on the soccer field Friday, April 21. 

Johnston scored in the 29th minute of the first half and put in the game-winning goal in the 87th minute in double overtime to secure a 2-1 victory for the Rebels. Columbine (9-1-1, 8-0-1) all but wrapped up its first girls soccer conference crown since 1999.

"We didn't do what we needed to do. We had plenty of chances," Green Mountain coach Ken Fehr said. "One mistake in the back and they beat us."

Johnston found herself with a one-on-one scoring chance on Burke with three minutes left in the second five-minute overtime period. For the second time Johnston popped a shot past Burke and into the back of the net.

"I thought we played really well and were more fit than them," Burke said. "We just got unlucky." 



Green Mountain senior Alicia Archuleta, right, chases down Columbine senior Britney Schwaninger during a Class 5A Jeffco League game Friday, April 21, at Lakewood Memorial Field. The Rebels won 2-1 in overtime, dashing the Rams' hope to repeat as conference champions.

Luck appeared to be with Green Mountain (7-5-1, 6-2-1) late in the first half and in the first overtime period.

Rams' senior defender Lindsay Fethermen shot what looked to be a harmless feed into the Rebels' goalie box with three minutes left in the first half and Green Mountain trailing 1-0. The ball bounce in front of Columbine junior goalie Christine Delashmutt and over her head. The ball creped into the net before Delashmutt could recover and the game was tied at 1 at halftime.

The second stoke of luck for the Rams came in the first overtime period. A shot from the Rebels looked destined the back of the net halfway through the first overtime period, but the ball hit the right post and was cleared by Green Mountain.

"I definitely didn't except to lose at that point," Fehr said.

Green Mountain's best scoring chance to break the tie came early in the second half. Delashmutt saved a header by Rams' senior Elise Mandat off a centering pass from senior Alicia Archuleta just in front of the goal line.

Mandat argued with the center referee that the ball crossed the line to no avail.

The loss dropped Green Mountain out of reach from catching Columbine and Chatfield in the league standings. A repeat of winning the coveted conference crown that Green Mountain has won three of the past four seasons is gone. The Rams' confidence isn't heading into the postseason that begins the second week of May.

"All we need to do is refocus and keep our heads up," Burke said. "We'll be fine."

Freshman Goalie Holding Her Own
Green Mountain Handed First Conference Loss

April 13, 2006
One of the toughest tasks for Green Mountain's girls soccer team going into this season was figuring out how to replace goalie Lucy Osterberg.

Osterberg led the Rams to back-to-back Class 5A Jeffco League titles and helped Green Mountain advance to the state semifinals in 2004. 

Freshman Meagan Burke landed the unenviable task of replacing Osterberg. So far she has handled the situation very well. In Green Mountain's first four conference games Burke allowed only one goal.

"She's doing a great job for us," Green Mountain coach Ken Fehr said. "Being a freshman goalkeeper is not an easy position to be in. She needs a little more experience but she is playing hard."

Burke credits her teammates with allowing her to make the smooth transition into the spotlight of high school soccer. 
"The team has been very supportive of me and they have helped me out a lot," she said.

Burke held one of the best teams in the state, the Chatfield Chargers, to just two goals by making eight saves Friday, April 7, at Trailblazer Stadium.

The two goals equaled Chatfield's lowest output of the season. However, the two goals were enough to knock off Green Mountain 2-0. The Rams (6-4, 5-1) slipped behind Chatfield and Columbine in the league standings with their first conference loss of the season.

The game was scoreless until the 34th minute, when Tori Delmonico got past Green Mountain's defense and took a shot that got past Burke to give Chatfield a 1-0 lead. The Chargers (9-0-1, 5-0) picked up their second and final goal in the 60th minute when Callie Hancock found a wide-open Aleah DeGeneres in front of the net.

DeGeneres finished the play and thus finished off any chances of a Green Mountain comeback.

"I thought we could have stepped up and played a little bit better today," Burke said. "However, Chatfield is a good team and we stayed in it for a while."

Senior Alicia Archuleta had the first scoring opportunity for Green Mountain in the 19th minute. She took a shot from 10 yards away that was saved by Chatfield goalie Alyssa Gillmore. She made another save on a shot by junior Traci Dreesen from 25 yards away in the 34th minute. The third and final save for Gillmore came in the 49th minute when she stopped a shot off the foot freshman Shelby Forrest.

"We some good opportunities today," Fehr said. "We just didn't finish them."

Burke made five of her eight saves in the first half to keep Green Mountain close.

"It was a little nerve-racking facing the continuous attack of Chatfield," Burke said. "Our defense played very well when it needed to."

Even with the loss, Green Mountain is still in prime position to be one of the six teams from 5A Jeffco to qualify for the state tournament in May.

"I like our chances right now," Fehr said. "We just need to take it one game at a time. There is still a lot of soccer to be played."




Green Mountain freshman goalie Meagan Burke, back left, jumps into the pack to get a hand on a corner kick while Green Mountain defender Bailey Blume, Chatfield's Tori Delmonico and Kirsten Sjolund battle for position in the goalie box Friday, April 7. Chatfield came away with a 2-0 victory.


Green Mountain Doesn't Miss A Beat With New Coach


April 06, 2006
Just before the start of the girls' high school soccer season there was a huge shake up for Green Mountain

The historically rich program — owner of two state titles in the 1990s and three of the past four Class 5A Jeffco League titles — suddenly had a coaching change. John Brovsky, who took over the reins from Theresa Echtermeyer five years ago, was out.

Green Mountain's administration can't comment on the reasons why Brovsky was dismissed from his coaching position because its a personnel issue, but Brovsky is still a teacher at Green Mountain.

Ken Fehr, who was slotted as an assistant coach, has taken over the head coaching duties.

"Obviously that was a shock to everybody. We didn't have a choice. We had to play," Fehr said. "I tried to keep the girls positive in spite of what happened. We keep moving forward and the girls are doing a great job." 



Green Mountain freshman Kelci Crispe, left, battles for possession with Lakewood's Stephani Davies during first half Friday, March 31, at Trailblazer Stadium. The Rams stayed undefeated in league play with a 3-0 victory.
Green Mountain (4-3, 3-0) is off to its normal dominating self in conference play. The Rams defeated Arvada, Bear Creek and Lakewood by a combined score of 13-1. They sit atop the league standings with Chatfield as the only teams with an unblemished conference mark.

"We may have lost a lot of seniors, but we have a lot of depth on this team," senior Alicia Archuleta said. "From the starting 11 down we have a lot of depth on this team."

Archuleta has taken over as one of the leaders for the Rams. She came up big Friday, March 31, against Lakewood (2-5-1, 0-3-1). The midfielder broke a scoreless tie in the 47th minute with a penalty kick score.

Rams sophomore Audrey Carlson drew the foul when she was taken down in the Tigers' goalie box. Fehr had his reliable senior take the shot.

"I knew she would finish that," Fehr said.

Sophomore Michaela Lewis and junior Traci Dreesen added goals to ward off any Lakewood comeback .

"Lakewood put up a fight in that first half," Dreesen said.

The Tigers out shot Green Mountain 4-2 in the first 40 minutes. Green Mountain freshman goalie Meagan Burke faced just one shot in the second half before Fehr put senior Sondra Goings in net.

"I like the way we're playing," Lakewood coach Peter Mehlbach said. "Our goal is to just keep on getting better and better. We are probably a year away from being really good."




JUST A REMINDER ABOUT THE

CANDELIGHT VIGIL FRIDAY, 

FEBRUARY

24, 2006 AT 7:40 P.M.

AT THE CRASH SITE.

THE VIGIL WILL BE AT UNION AND

OHIO. 

IT IS ON AND WE HOPE TO SEE YOU

THERE! PLEASE PLAN

ON WEARING YOUR MELANIE

T-SHIRTS!!!!!


IN LOVING MEMORY OF
MELANIE "ARCHIE" AMANDA ARCHULETA
05-30-84 to 02-24-05
Our Beloved Daughter, Sister, Grandchild, Niece, Cousin & Friend




The night Melanie died, 
her cousin, Zach Cardenas,
composed a wonderful rap song.
I have now put that rap song on this website.

To the right you can link to that song.

It's a great tribute to a great person!

I love you Zachary and I know you miss her terribly,

WE ALL DO.

This is the link for MADD Colorado:
www.madd.org/co

It is a wonderful organization and I thought I would never ever be a member but here I am a MADD mom. Gaylen is an amazing person and if you have any questions about MADD or want to join MADD give her a call. She truly has a gift about caring for people that have been impacted by drinking and driving. If you want to donate money in Melanie's name that would be great too! Also, on August 5, 2006, MADD will be hosting a 5k walk in memory of loved ones killed by a drunk driver, or impacted by drunk driving. We are asking as many people as possible to join this walk on behalf of our team, in memory of Melanie Amanda Archuleta.  Below is the link for this great event:

http://www.madd.org/chapter/0803_10091


If you find yourself here please light a candle or pay a tribute to my precious daughter, Melanie Amanda Archuleta, d/o/b May 30, 1984, date of death, February 24, 2005. Please DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE, EVER! It is an epidemic with horrible consequences, and my daughter paid the ultimate price. I miss her so much, a part of me has died, and I think about her 24/7. I carried Melanie for almost 10 months! The doctor finally induced after I had carried her for 9 months and 3 weeks. I wanted her to be a boy so bad, that when she came out of the womb my first words to her daddy were, "Tell me it's a boy George." But then when I looked into her big, beautiful brown eyes, how could I not fall in love with her? Deep down I guess I got my wish, she was such a tomboy, never girlie, never cared about makeup, doing her hair, dressing up in girlie clothes, and she hated DRAMA!  She would always say that her aunties, Liz, Helen, Ruth and Larraine and her Big Grandma were all drama queens, I can still hear her say: "Drama queens, I can't handle it!!!" (Norma and Rachel are not drama queens she would always say) . Everyone that knew Mel was amazed by her kindness, her passion for life, her patience, understanding and all around warmness. Mel's dream was to buy a big house, walk all around the neighborhood, pick up every stray animal and take them back to her house. Melanie's love of her life was Zachary Norwood. I would always joke with her and tell her: "Mel, that negro is fugly."  And of course, Melanie in her calm voice would say: "Mom, stop being so mean, he's nice." Melanie always wanted to have tons of kids, and I would always tell her "Don't be bringing me no nappy headed babies home," I honestly didn't think GOD would take me serious!  Melanie attended Lakewood High School in Lakewood, Colorado. She graduated in 2002. She played soccer since she was 5, and excelled at it. Melanie's graduation party was fun, her high schools friends and family attended. She did not want to make a speech! I remember that day clearly. Melanie left for Long Island, NY in August, 2002. I honestly cried for hours during her going away party. Everyone kept telling me: "Ayyy, Becky stop crying she'll be back for Christmas." They didn't understand the fear I had letting Melanie go to start life on her own. I honestly thought Melanie would be in danger in NY. Melanie came home 2 years later, only to die three blocks from home. Life is funny that way, isn't it?

As I see all my sisters and brothers with their kids, I get so sad and jealous because their families are all intact. I love my family but they don't understand the pain I go through everyday. They all lost her, and they all mourned and helped us through this difficult time. My family sent George, Alicia and I to Puerto Vallarta right after Melanie died. We had to get away. It helped for awhile. Without Melanie's loved ones, we couldn't have made it. I love them for this. Please understand and accept how I am now, I'll never be the same. I lost my firstborn, it's hard accepting this.

The pain doesn't go away, it doesn't ease. Sometimes I think I wish I could die to be with her again, but then I see Melanie's little sister "Lil Arch" and she needs me here. Lil Arch is suffering so much. I love you Lil Arch. Stay strong babe. Make Melanie proud!
 
The thing I miss most about Melanie is blow drying her hair. She would always ask me to dry her hair, ALWAYS! I would get so mad at her for asking me to do this because she had so much of it and it was sooo thick (I envied her for her beautiful hair), I would always tell her: "Ayyy, Melanie, don't be lazy, do it yourself!"  I would kill to be able to do that today. Just to smell her hair again.  To all mothers out there, love your children, make them feel special and first and foremost,
TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM EVERYDAY AND ALWAYS SAY GOODBYE WHEN THEY LEAVE,  I didn't get to say goodbye.

Friday, February 24, 2006 at 7:40 p.m. we will be holding a candlelight vigil at the site where Melanie was killed. We will have friends, relatives, co-workers, and even 9news has been invited. Members of MADD will also be present. Melanie's family is requesting everyone who knew Melanie to attend and remember an amazing young woman. The location is Union and Ohio, (as some of you may remember from the memorial which was placed at the tree the night of Melanie's death). Please plan to attend this moment of praying, remembering, tears, and yes, even laughter, for we all know Melanie wouldn't want us to wallow in her death. The more support for this event the better!

With love,
Becky Archuleta










This was Melanie's favorite kind of dog! When I saw this pic, I just had to add it, Melanie, I know you are in heaven and laughing at how great this pic is, now you finally have your own weimawaner!





The fam on our first trip to NY (we look like tourists don't we?!)

Melanie Archuleta's Stony Brook University soccer bio:




Stony Brook University

Meet the Seawolves | Schedules and Results | News | Archives 

__________________________________





Seawolves can't hold 2-0 lead; Feliciano and Archuleta score first career goals

Freshman Melanie Archuleta scored a goal and an assist in her Seawolf debut against Miami (OH)
MOM Please Listen To Me

Mom please listen to me
As I take time to write.
I see parents struggling daily.
Their pain is such a fight...
All of us who have gone
And left the rest of you behind…
We’re ok. Mom, I promise…
Heaven is beautiful, and God is kind.
You used to tell me that one day
God would call and take you home.
You told me you’d make me strong
So I would stand tall when alone.
But things happen sometimes, Mom
That does not go in our plans,
I wasn’t scared, Mom,
When God held out his hand.
I didn’t want to leave you.
I didn’t have time to say Good bye
When the angels said, "Come with us"
There wasn’t time to question why.
I’ve watched you daily, Mom.
It hurts to see you cry.
I don’t want you to be unhappy,
Just because we didn’t get to say Goodbye
Tell the others what I’m telling you,
So many parents need to know
That Earth was just a lay over
We had another place to go.
I know you miss me, Mom
I know your heart was broken in two.
But God really needed me
Because my earthly life was through.
I’m always alongside you…
I smile and touch your hair.
I whisper "Mom, I love you"You just can’t see me there.
I’m the one who gently touches you
On your shoulder when you’re sad
I’m Happy now that you finally found
God again, and are no longer mad.
Tell the parents, Mom, for me
That all of us kids are okay.
God had plans for our lives
When he called us home that day.
I love you, Mom, I always will
And remember I’m not far away.
We’re going to be together
When God calls out your name.
~ Author Unknown







MELANIE AND HER LITTLE SISTER ALICIA



MELANIE AND ALICIA





Melanie and her mom



Melanie and her Uncle Julian and Auntie Larraine (who was like Mel's second mommy!)


When I saw this picture I immediately thought of you babe, you always wore overalls as a child!!!




Melanie

Trust God

FOR IT IS SAID 

HE ONLY TAKES THE

BEST




SO MUCH MELANIE!!!!!!!

Class: Sophomore Hometown: Lakewood, Colo. High School: Lakewood HS Height: 5-4 Position: M Birthdate: 05/30/1984

2002: Missed eleven games due to injury . . Recorded a single goal and assist on theseason . . .Enjoyed a stellar Seawolf debut, scoring a goal and an assist in season opener versus Miami (OH) .(8/30). . . Tallied a goal in the penalty kick shoototut against New Hampshire to help advance to the America East Conference Finals . . . (11/8) 
High School: Won four letters as a center midfielder for Lakewood High School in Lakewood, Colorado . . . four-year starter earned All-Conference honors . . . played her club ball for Real Colorado Elite which was the State Cup runners-up from 1997-01 . . . she also helped the Elite win the 2001 Raleigh Shootout and the Nortel Cup Championship in 2000 and 2001.

Paw Prints: Melanie Amanda Archuleta . . . born May 30, 1984 . . . daughter of Becky Lee and George Gilbert Archuleta . . . sister of Alicia.


What My Child Has Taught Me 

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I've learned that learning to forgive takes a lot of practice.
I've learned that friends can become strangers, and strangers can become friends.
I've learned that ignorance isn't an excuse for the lack of compassion.
I've learned that some people will never, ever - "get it".
I've learned that the community of sorrow is the strongest of all.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes.
I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned that love isn't measured by the amount of time you have with someone.
I've learned that some sorrow is so deep that it has no words. But so is love.

As your heart aches each day, look at the stars as smiles from the many angels that heaven holds. Thank you for touching my heart, you will be remembered in my prayers.


Happy Valentine's Day Melanie
I will love you forever!!!

I still can't believe your gone,
but I know I'll see you
again someday.











God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way.  Look for God in others. The best and most beautiful things cannot be seen or touched - they must be felt with the heart ~
Helen Keller

-Happy Moments, praise God
-Difficult Moments, seek God
-Quiet Moments, worship God
-Painful Moments, trust God
-Every Moment, thank God





The First Year
by Brenda Penepent

The first year has come,
And you, so far away from me now;
But in my heart still.
Forever, I will hold you close.
Each smile, laugh and tear I’ve cried
A testament to your presence.
I will always love you,
No matter what happens.
Your death can not separate us.
I’m right here, loving you as always.
My heart is true and strong.
I will never forget your spirit.
I am no longer afraid.
To live or die is the same for me.
You are with me on this journey.
I raise your light to the heavens, and smile.



Child Of Mine
author unknown

"I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine," He said.
"For you to love the while she lives and mourn when she is dead,
"It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call him back, take care of her for me?

"She'll bring her charms to gladden you, but should her stay be brief,
"You'll have his lovely memories, as solace for your grief,
"I cannot promise she will stay, since all from earth return,
"But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn. 

"I've looked the wide world over in my search for teachers true,
"And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes I have selected you.
"Now will you give her all your love, nor think the labor vain,
"Nor hate me when I come to call to take her back again? "

I fancied that I heard them say: "Dear Lord, Thy will be done!
"For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter her with tenderness; we'll love her while we may,
And for happiness we've known forever grateful stay.

"But should the angels call for her much sooner than we'd planned,
"We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand."



My Memories
by Jessica L. Gray 
  
It seems as if yesterday
you held out your hand
for a walk in the park
a play in the sand
I know it was just last night
I tucked you in bed
saying our prayers
with a kiss on the head
Sometimes I wonder why you had to go
But the answer to this I already know
So much suffering just can't go on
I finally had realized what I knew all along
I had so much to say
I Love You's to tell
I started to slip
and I almost fell
But I kept on moving
one day at a time
My memories kept going
on and on I’m my mind
The day you were born
Your first big girl bike
I know you put these there
for me to keep in sight
I know you are with me
each hour and minute
I feel you around me
There seems to be no limit
So my darling daughter
I want you to know
I miss you and Thank You
for helping me let you go


Tattoo of the pic below!


actual picture

July 21, 2006:

Unless you have lost a child, then I don't expect you to fully understand or comprehend why I put this tattoo of Melanie on my back. It was something I have been thinking of doing since Melanie's death. I finally did it! It was the most painful experience of my life, and I shed many tears getting this tattoo. But in the end, as you can see, it was all worth it. It's beautiful and tastefully done, and the tattoo artist in Puerto Vallarta captured Melanie in a way I never thought possible!  I love you Melanie. I am so proud to have been known as your mommy. In life it's better to have known someone as precious and special as Melanie, if even for a short time, than not know her at all. Thank you so much Melanie for gracing me with your presence.

Please, please, I would like your comments about my tattoo, good or bad. If I can take the pain of a huge tattoo on my back, I can take the pain of knowing your true feelings! Bring it on!

Sincerely, 

Becky Archuleta
Proud Mother of Melanie Amanda Archuleta
______________________________________________

I have been getting a lot of phone calls from people asking me about the 5k Walk MADD on August 5, 2006. Here are the details:

8:40 a.m. Opening ceremonies begin, Sloans Lake Park
Sheridan Blvd. & West 17th Avenue
Denver, CO 80204
Any questions call Emily Tompkins (303) 425-5905, "Team Archie" or email emilytompkins@madd.org 

If you have any more questions about how to register email me at: 

sokermom@hotmail.com

This is the picture of the banner we will be holding at the MADD 5K walk on August 5, 2006. I would like TayTay, Nikki, Jordan, Sami, Donovan, Kayleen, Bianka, Taylor, Darian, Elias, Isaac, Kendal, Matt and Gabby to carry the banner in memory of their cousin Melanie:





Alexandra lit a candle on 07/15/2006: "It's a shame how many people must die due to something as stupid as drunk driving. rip melanie you're a beautiful angel." 

July 18, 2006: Mexico was amazing, healing and everything we needed. We miss you Melanie!

IT'S FRIDAY, JULY 7, 2006 AND WE ARE OFF TO 

MEXICO FOR A MUCH NEEDED AND DESERVED 

VACATION. WE WILL RETURN MONDAY, JULY 16, 

2006. I WANT TO SEE LOTS OF CANDLES LIT IN MY 

ABSENCE!!!!


PLEASE WATCH OVER US MY BEAUTIFUL MELANIE.







Melanie, we are missing you so much, I know 4th of July was one of your favorite holidays, we will be thinking about you at the Colorado Rapids soccer game on Tuesday, your dad and I are sad everyday, we miss you and call out your name everyday, "MELANIE", doesn't it make you happy in heaven knowing you are loved so much? We are so proud to call you our daughter. 

A special note to Judie:
Thank you for all your wonderful advice you recently sent to me. I can't wait to meet you at the angel gathering.




Is forever and ever.





Today is Monday, June 19, 2006 and I am not having a good day, I miss my firstborn. I'm going crazy wondering where you are and if you are ok. Your Uncle Joel called me the other day, he found a 
holiday video with you on it and of course I watched it.  I'm having it copied for all of your aunties and 
uncles and cousins and of course your big grandma 
and little grandma and grandpa! Grandpa misses you so much, Little Grandma went to visit you at the cemetary on your birthday, your auntie Scilla was there with Nikki, Nikki reminds all of us of you. Send me some kind of sign Mel to let me know your ok, I am dying a slow death here missing you so bad. I don't know who to turn to when I get like this. I know I will see you again, but when?
Hugs and kisses from

Your "mommy"














Please light a candle in memory of Melanie Archuleta.

MAY 30, 2006:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MEL, MY SOCCER ANGEL, ALL I CAN WONDER IS: WHO YOU'D BE TODAY? 

I MISS YOU SO MUCH, WHY GOD, WHY?

A POEM

Last night while I was trying to sleep,
My daughter's voice I did hear.
I opened my eyes and looked around
But she did not appear.
Sh said, "Mom you've got to listen,
You've got to understand.
God didn't take me from you, Mom
He only took my hand.
When I called out in pain that night,
The instant that I died,
He reached down and took my hand,
And pulled me to His side.
He pulled me up and saved me
From the misery and pain
My body was hurt so badly inside,
I could never be the same.
My search is really over now,
I've found happiness within,
All the answers to my empty dreams
And all that might have been.
I love you and miss you so,
And I'll always be nearby.
My body's gone forever,
But my spirit will never die!
And so, you must go now,
Live one day at a time.
Just understand
God did not take me from you,
He only took my hand.
http://bobbo.memory-of.com/About.aspx 


AN ANGEL KISS

We go through life so often,
Not stopping to enjoy the day,
And we take each one for granted,
As we travel on our way.

For in your pain and sorrow,
An Angels kiss will help you through,
This kiss is very private,
For it is ment for only you.

We never stop to measure,
Anything we just might miss,
But if the wind should blow by softly,
You'll feel an Angels kiss.

A kiss that is sent from Heaven,
A kiss from up above,
A kiss that is very special,
From someone that you love.

So when your heart is heavy,
And filled with tears and pain,
And no one can console you,
Remember once again.....

About the ones you grieve for,
Because you sadly miss,
And the gentle breeze you took for granted,
Was just an Angels kiss.


TO ALL SPECIAL MUMMIES

We are lonely apart but together we're strong
All of our precious babies are gone
Some people ask if we are feeling down.

Some of them notice a tear or a frown
Most of them dont and we carry on
Hiding our sadness inside.

They tell us our grief wont last for long
They ask us if we are moving on?
We're not, we're just pretending well
Hiding emotions and we dont tell
How lost we feel and alone.

Some of us cope in strange little ways
We'll all grieve for all our days
We'll never ever ever forget
Although on days we may accept
That our babies were taken away.

There are days that are harder - anniversaries
We find ways to remember like planting trees
A special plant or a candle lit
A favourite place to think and sit
With a whisper in the breeze.

And our Angels watch and are full of smiles
So proud of mummy coping all the while
And daddy, brothers, sisters too
They sometimes send us someone new
to love and care for.

So to all you mummies - I send a hug
This poem written - full of love
And lets remember when there's tears
We're altogether, always near.

Written by Em Western

_________________________________

To All Parents
by Edgar Guest




Death of a Child
by Sandy Eakle 

Sorry I didn't get to stay. 
To laugh and run and play. 
To be there by your side. 
I'm sorry that I had to die. 

God sent me down to be with you, 
to make your loving heart anew. 
To help you look up and see 
Both God and little me.

Mommy, I wish I could stay. 
Just like I heard you pray. 
But, all the angels did cry 
when they told little me goodbye. 

God didn't take me cause He's mad. 
He didn't send me to make you sad. 
But to give us both a chance to be
a love so precious .. don't you see? 

Up here no trouble do I see
and the pretty angels sing to me. 
The streets of gold is where I play 
you'll come here too, mommy, someday.

Until the day you join me here, 
I'll love you mommy, dear. 
Each breeze you feel and see, 
brings love and a kiss from me. 



Losing a Piece of Me
by Tammie Thompson 

Imagine someone has opened your chest with clawed hands,
grabbed your heart in a crushing grip and torn it from your body.
But you do not die. You remain alive, in agony.
Agony that will continue for days,
weeks, months and years.

This is what it feels like when your child dies.
This is how I felt when my daughter Melanie died,
age twenty years.

To hold the limp body of my precious child in my arms
and feel its emptiness was pain that defies words.
I sat cradling my beautiful child, knowing that I
would never again see her smile,
hear her laugh
or feel her hand clinging to mine.
I would never again hold her warm body close and
breathe in the scent of her hair. I would never
know the person she would have grown up to be.

I walked from the room knowing that I had seen
and held my child for the last time ever.

I wondered why I still lived,
and how I was supposed to keep going.
I wanted to die; I wasn't suicidal - it's just that
the only way to end my pain was death,
and I ached to hold her in my arms again.

Never again will I feel 'whole'.
My whole future is flavored by the loss of my daughter.
part of me went with her,
and a gaping hole exists that her warm
presence once filled.

I asked questions that no one could answer;
Why did she die?
Why not me instead?
Death has struck close to me once -
what if it happens again?
What do I do now?
How will I manage?
Why am I still here?

I rode an emotional roller coaster.
One moment I felt I was managing well -
the next I was curled up in a corner
pleading with God to take me, right now.
I went for long periods where I did well and thought,
"Okay, I've accepted it."
Then out of the blue, it hit me anew -
"She's dead. God, she's really dead."
And I began a new round of grieving.

Gradually, I found that the lows
weren't quite as low as the previous ones,
and that I rose from them quicker.
Then just when I thought I was cruising on a level piece of
track, it dropped out from under me yet again.

I did this over and over and over,
but living with it gradually became easier,
and I even found that I could live a 'normal' life again,
although it was a new normality.  

I will never forget Melanie.
She will live forever in my heart
and in my memories.
Death makes her no less a part of our family.
Living with the fact that my child has died
does not mean forgetting.
It means knowing and accepting that she is gone,
but still holding close those precious memories.
It means that my love for her does not change,
but that I don't allow my grief for her death
to over-rule my life forever. 

It's about remembering that Melanie would not expect
nor want me to spend the rest of my life
in misery.
My new normality is not necessarily an unhappy one.

Melanie's life and death is part of what makes me who I am.
It has had an immense impact on the way I look at life,
and although I wish she was still here,
I know that I have grown from my experience.


Melanie's official date of death is the 24th of February, 2005,
the day she was killed in that horrible car accident.

As I write this, it's the 26 of January, 2006;
Melanie would be 21 now.
I wonder what she would look like now,
and imagine her talking and playing with her sister,
even as I sit here writing about her death.

We tend to celebrate her birthday rather than her death-day.
To us it's more important that she was born than that she died.
We choose to celebrate her life,
not her death.
It means more to us
that she was here
than that she left.

Remember?
Always. 

Love? 
Eternally. 

Forget?
Never.



Support From Others
Author Unknown 

Don’t tell me that you understand.
Don’t tell me that you know.
Don’t tell me that I will survive,
How I will surely grow.
Don’t come at me with answers
That can only come from me.
Don’t tell me how my grief will pass,
That I will soon be free.
Accept me in my ups and downs.
I need someone to share.
Just hold my hand and let me cry
And say, “My friend, I care.”


Light a Candle
by Paul Alexander 

And I will light a candle for you.
To shatter all the darkness and 
bless the times we knew.
Like a beacon in the night
The flame will burn bright and 
guide us on our way.
Oh, today I light a candle for you.
The seasons come and go, 
and I'm weary from the change.
I keep on moving on, 
you know it's not the same.
And when I'm walking all alone
Do you hear me call your name?
Do your hear me sing the songs we used to sing?

 You filled my life with wonder,
 touched me with surprise,
Always saw that something special
 deep within your eyes.
And through the good times and the bad,
We carried on with pride.
I hold onto the love and life we knew.

And I will light a candle for you.
To shatter all the darkness 
and bless the times we knew.
Like a beacon in the night
The flame will burn bright 
and guide us on our way.
Oh, today I light a candle for you.


MY PRECIOUS BABY 

I didn't have to look into your eyes to fall in love with you,
I didn't have to hear your cry to know you loved me too.
I didn't need to hold your hand to cherish you always.
Within my womb we shared our hearts,
You touched my soul,
You sweetened my spitit,
You gave me memories i'll always hold dear.
Yes, my heart aches since you departed too soon,
But a mothers love doesn't end with death,
For you are my child and my love is forever yours.

Authour unknown


Caring Loving Angel

You're in the safest hands you know
They support you every day
They hold you tight and give you strength
And will never go away
They cup your face when you are tired
They pat your shoulder too
They lift you up on weary days
When life is tough on you.

They stroke your brow
They wipe a tear
They clasp your hand held tight
They massage your aching body
In the quiet of the night
They mend your heart when broken
Giving meaning to go on
They lift the cup so you can drink
To help to keep you strong
They place each foot to climb the hill
They push and shove with might
They knew that you could do it
And as always they were right.

These hands only rest when they know
That you are well and safe
They are the hands of your angel
Giving strength and love and grace
Life is so much better
Knowing you have angel hands on you
Forever offering their support
In everything you do.

By:Norma Anne Peymani 



Miss Me, But Let Me Go
author Unknown

When I come to the end of the road,
and the sun has set for me.
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little—but not too long,
and not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that was once shared.
Miss me, but let me go. 

For this is a journey we all must take, 
and each must go alone.
It’s all a part of the master’s plan,
 a step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart,
 go to the friends we know.
Bear your sorrow in good deeds. 
Miss me, but let me go.


You Didn't Go Alone 

You never said I'm leaving
You never said goodbye
You were gone before I knew it,
And only God knew why
A million times I needed you,
A million times I cried
If love alone could have saved you,
You never would have died
In life I loved you dearly
In death I love you still
In my heart you hold a place,
That no one could ever fill
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn't go alone
For all my love went with you,
The day God took you home.
-Author Unknown 

"You don't get over it, you just get through it. 
You don't get by it, because you can't get around it. It doesn't 'get better'; it just gets different. Every day... Grief puts on a new face..."



Hugs From Heaven
by Charlotte Anselmo 

 When you feel a gentle breeze
Caress you when you sigh
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From a loved one way up high.

 If a soft and tender raindrop
Lands upon your nose
They've added a small kiss
As fragile as a rose.

If a song you hear fills you
With a feeling of sweet love
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From someone special up above.
If you awaken in the morning
To a bluebird's chirping song
It's music sent from Heaven
To cheer you all day long.

If tiny little snowflakes
Land upon your face
It's a hug sent from Heaven
Trimmed with Angel lace.

So keep the joy in your heart
If you're lonely my dear friend
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
A broken heart will mend.


All I Ask Of You
by Floria Kelderhouse

 Don’t tell me you know how I feel,
You haven’t walked in my shoes.
Don’t tell me I have other children to love,
That won’t bring back the daughter that I lost.
Don’t tell me to get out of the house,
Maybe I just want to stay here and mourn
for my lost daughter.
Don’t tell me it will get better,
From my point of view it will never be better.
Don’t tell me it could be worse,
How much worse than this could it be.
Don’t tell me to trust in God,
I do trust in Him and love Him,
That won’t bring my daughter back
Don’t tell me to eat and take care of myself,
Maybe the food won’t stay down.
Maybe I don’t care about myself right now.
Don’t tell me to try to get some sleep,
Don’t you think I would love to sleep?
Don’t tell me all this,
You haven’t walked in my shoes.
Do tell me you care.
Do tell me you love me.
Do tell me you will be there if I need you.
If I need to just talk to call you.
Or better yet, you call me.
Just listen, that’s all, just listen.
Do let me cry.
Do let me mourn.
Do let me experience this
terrible loss that I feel.
Do pray for me.
That is all I ask.

 
"If God brings me to it, He will bring me through it!






My Moo-Moo 




Melanie and Yaneash Donaldson, one of the minos!

To the three Minos (you know who you are!) Think of Melanie everyday for that would make her smile in heaven. I know she is taking care of you all.

As I sit back and remember Melanie the first thing that comes into my mind is how witty and funny Melanie was. She had a comeback for everything and everyone.  And of course, her buttworms, Melanie will always be remembered by her buttworms. (To those who have had the pleasure . . .  if you can call it the pleasure  . . . of experiencing a buttworm) feel honored for she only did that to people she felt comfortable with!

Dear Lord:

As you know I have been consumed by anger and bitterness over the loss of my firstborn.  I ask myself over and over again, why? And of course I never get a response. Let me grieve my way and maybe someday I will learn to have faith in you again. For now, I don't have anything nice to say or think about you Lord.  Melanie never deserved to die the way she did. Her small body going through that horrible car crash. I die everytime I think about it.  How could someone so good and pure die this way? How could YOU let this happen?

Mel's mommy.





LAKEWOOD HIGH SCHOOL TIGERS FOREVER!

HER NAME:

Melanie:

Genderr: Feminine
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Pronounced: MEL-a-nee   [key]
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Derived from Greek μελαινα (melaina) meaning "black, dark". This was the name of a Roman saint who gave all her wealth to charity in the 5th century.

 Though her smile is gone forever,
And the hand I cannot touch,
Of the one I loved so much.
Her Memory is my keepsake,
With which I'll never part.
God has her in His keeping,
I have her in my heart.


Don't think of her as gone away
her journeys just begun,
life holds so many facets,
this earth is only one.
Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears, 
in a place of warmth and comfort,
where there are no days or years.
Think how she must be wishing that
we could know today how nothing
but our sadness can really pass away.
And think of her as living in the hearts
of those she touched, for nothing loved
is ever lost-and she was

LOVED SO MUCH.
                                                                                            

To borrow the great words of a fellow Angel-Mom:

For all the Angel Families but especially for all the Angel Moms, I have gained strength through the pain and tears and the special bond we share. So I want to thank each and everyone of you from the bottom of my heart and I pray that you will find comfort and peace through the memories and love of our Angels. God bless you! 



Bereaved Parents Wish List

I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak Melanie's name. Melanie 
lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that she was
important to you also.

If I cry and get emotional when you talk about Melanie, I wish you
knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. Melanie's death is the
cause of my tears. You have talked about Melanie and you have
allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.

Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't
shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.

I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want
you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you
would let me talk about Melanie; my favorite topic of the day.

I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that
 Melanie's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these
things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.

I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years
are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief
will never be over. I will suffer the death of Melanie until the day
I die.

I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand
that I will never fully recover. I will always miss Melanie and I will always grieve that she is dead.

I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be
happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.

I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.

I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is
miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please
be as patient with me as I am with you.

When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I
don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.

I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very
normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.

Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice.
However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you
could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.

Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes
the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk
away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
 
I wish you understood that grief changes people. When Melanie died,
a big part of me died with her. I am not the same person I was
before Melanie died and I will never be that person again.

I wish very much that you could understand ~ understand my loss and
my grief. But, I pray daily that you will never understand.

From Compassionate Friends


Hi babe:

I visited you at the cemetary yesterday. I enjoyed the talk we had. I felt your presence all day and all day I couldn't stop thinking how if you were still here you would be opening up your gifts with Alicia and dad and me. Christmas wasn't the same and it never ever will be. Your Christmas tree looks beautiful on your grave.  I'm slowly dying inside Mel. I miss you. How was your first Christmas with god?  Did you think about us? I hope so, because we all couldn't stop thinking about you. I love you and miss you and think of you constantly. Someone decorated the memorial sign on Union with Christmas garland and a star. I don't ever see anyone there, so I don't know who is doing it, but I love it and it makes me feel good knowing someone else out there loves you and thinks about you too.

Love, Mommy

December 1, 2005: 20 YEARS!   Melanie's killer was sentenced to 20 years! THANK YOU LORD!
Justice has been accomplished!
For everyone that came to the courthouse yesterday, thank you from the bottom of our hearts! I am so sorry the courtroom filled up soo fast, please scroll down to her legacy and you can link to the 9news video and story and the rocky mountain news story about sentencing.

Becky Archuleta
Mel's mommy

As the first holidays approach without you Mel, how can I be as happy as everyone wants me to be?  Yes I have changed, a part of me has been amputated. My firstborn is gone and I struggle everyday with this question: Why?
 No answer ever appears.

The holidays are meant to be a happy time, but I find I am not and cannot be happy this year, most of the time I walk around in a daze. I miss you baby. I promise I will hang your stocking up this year and yes, fill it with the great stocking stuffers you always loved and looked forward to.
Love,
Mommy

Thursday, December 1, 2005 at 8:30 a.m., Melanie's killer will be sentenced at the Jefferson County Courthouse in Golden, Colorado. It's been a long and hard road for all of Melanie's friends and family, and I want to thank everyone that has stopped by Mel's site and lit candles or who have just stopped by to remember a great person.  Melanie, we miss you dearly and I am still numb and heartbroken thinking about how I will never see you walk through that door again. You were indeed a perfect daughter and I have no qualms saying that about you. We love you and want you back. Thank you for letting me be your mother.

Mommy

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Melanie Archuleta, who was born in Denver, Colorado on May 30, 1984 and passed away on February 24, 2005 at the age of 20. We will remember her forever. Melanie attended college at University of NY at Stony Brook, on a soccer scholarship. She was a very happy and fun loving person. Her laugh was once described as "thunderous"! Not one person ever dis-liked her. She was the " PERFECT DAUGHTER". On Feb. 24, 2005, Melanie and a co-worker decided to go have a fun day. While driving to get something to eat, the driver of the vehicle ( having consumed more than 6 beers earlier), drove 78 mph in a 30mph zone. He lost control of the car slamming into 3 trees. Melanie was ejected from the vehicle and was killed instantly. Melanie leaves behind her father George, mother Rebecca, and sister Alicia. She also leaves many many family and friends to cherish her precious memories. Melanie Amanda Archuleta, also known as " Archie" will live on through all of us forever! 

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Forever!